Attracting Relationships - Learn Common Mistakes in Using the Law of Attraction

Many of us are seeking that special somebody, that one person who will stay with us the rest of our lives. So why, if most, if not all are looking for somebody, and we essentially all want the same thing, is it so difficult to find?

It should be easy, shouldn't it? Well here lies the answer. Generally speaking it is our experience of past relationships that stop us from having what we want in the present.

Pretty much any past relationship, with a few exceptions, was not successful. For whatever reason, it ended. It did not ultimately turn into that one life long experience we all dream about. Agreed? So if we think about these past experience in this way, then we are focusing on an unsuccessful or now non-relationship. Remember the Law of Attraction returns to us whatever thoughts we hold in our mind. If we are consistently focusing on a failed relationship or a relationship that is no more, this is what we will manifest.

Our past experience becomes our present reality. We may well be thinking about a successful relation, but are mixing those intentions with thoughts of unsuccessful relationships. The result, mixed results at best, probably no results.

So here's what we have to do to overcome it. We don't have to erase those relationships from our mind, we just have to change the way we think about them, so here is a few tips.

-Never think, or talk of yourself as a victim. If you were treated horribly, cheated on, beaten or abused, whatever, you will attract it again if that is your focus. Don't think about it, don't talk about it. You must have good thoughts about relationships at all time if you hope to achieve a great relationship. If you were in a non conventional situation, view yourself as a student, not a victim. Turn it into a growing experience, one that strengthened you, not weakened you.

Continuously holding negative thoughts and mixing them with relationship thoughts send a signal of intent saying this is what you want from a relationship. Nobody intends this, it's quite accidental, but does keep us out of a health relationship, or any relationship at all quite often.

-Never think of past relationships as bad. They weren't, they were necessary to bring you to a point where some lesson need to be learnt. Say things like "I've had some fantastic relationships in the past", "I've been blessed to be involved with some incredible people". Really look for those experience in past relationships and focus on them. Remember what we think about we manifest. If you are constantly thinking of bad experiences, guess what? More are on there way.

So that's a start.

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